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Confused...
I thought we were in this together, only to find out their well-intended actions would only perpetuate some hurtful ideas about us.
How do you tell someone you love/ care for that their actions are far from loving?
Love is a verb.
Be open to learning a better way.
Be open to teaching a better way.
Healthy love requires both vulnerability & courage. We must be vulnerable enough to listen to words from our loved ones, even when we don’t like it. We must be courageous enough to compassionately speak the truth, even when we think it might hurt the feelings of our loved ones. I am a strong believer in the saying "It takes a village to raise a child", so for lack of a better word I would describe my feeling toward my students as agape. I want the best for them, I do my best to facilitate them becoming the best version of themselves. My time as an educator includes serving as a mentor and advisor to students pursuing their education. I appreciate these experiences because they all ways make me dig deeper into my own beliefs and values. The only thing I don't like about these experiences is that I am often required to grade a student's against someone else's values and beliefs. In one experience I found myself extremely troubled and not sure how to be supportive. I believe everyone has the right to their opinion, but this time the monolithic opinion held by my student was counter to my lived experiences and some of the other students they planned to work with. They were lacking some imperative information. I struggled with how to tell my student that their lack of research and expectations from their peers felt like someone suffering from a savior complex. I felt I lacked the courage to speak my truth. How could I be loving in this situation? Never make assumptions is what I heard in my head.
I assumed that this student self-identified with some of the cultures of their peers in the same way I did ( as a person of color) only to find out they didn't. As I began to ask more questions to learn more about the student and their thought processes natural conversation developed. The natural dialogue created space for me to offer suggestions that could inform their creative process by filling in the voids.
💛Healthy love requires both vulnerability & courage. We must be vulnerable enough to listen to words from our loved ones, even when we don’t like it. We must be courageous enough to compassionately speak the truth, even when we think it might hurt the feelings of our loved ones.If our circle of loved ones is made up ppl that share our beliefs values and goals we can trust their intentions.
Learning/ growing is not always comfortable which is why we need the comfort of our circle, and the reminder that we love them & they love is through the good bad, and ugly. In the words of the spectacular @safi_ology: If I’m lacking anything & you love me...teach me
🔅Love is a verb
🔅Be open to learning a better way.
🔅Be open to teaching a better way.
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-Mya💛
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